Voices in the media have suggested that the intentional release of the “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie to coincide with Valentines Day will increase sexual activity among lovers. The movie will supposedly encourage Valentines to be more physically expressive with each other because of it’s story and content. If this were true, it would address a growing problem in American marriages.
In a recent New York Times OpEd piece entitled “Searching for Sex,” former Google quantitative analyst Seth Stephens-Davidowitz said this about his research: “On Google, the top complaint about a marriage is not having sex.” He went on to say, “Searches for ‘sexless marriage’ are three and a half times more common than ‘unhappy marriage’ and eight times more common than ‘loveless marriage.’ There are sixteen times more complaints about a spouse not wanting sex than about a married partner not being willing to talk.”
Too many marriages today are described as “sexless marriages.” Solving this crisis would be a good thing for the longterm health of marriages. So, will “50 Shades” actually encourage more sex in marriage?
NBC’s Today Show reported last week that 50% of women surveyed said they would rather read the “50 Shades” book or see the movie than have sex with their spouse or partner. The hype around the Valentine’s Day movie release implies – as one television commentator suggested: “There sure will be many happy husbands this Valentines Day.” In reality, the movie may increase sexual fantasy, but it may not increase sexual activity.
God wants married couples to enjoy a healthy, pleasurable sex life together. An entire book of the Bible, The Song of Solomon illustrates for us the healthy passion of physical intimacy God intends for married couples to enjoy.
“50 Shades” has and will cause many readers and movie-goers to settle for living vicariously through it’s fictional lovers rather than seek physcial intimacy with their spouses. Don’t buy into the hype that says “50 Shades” will help couples pursue more frequent sexual intimacy with each other. The real impact maybe less actual sex, not more.
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:7
Previous Posts Regarding the “Fifty Shades of Grey” Movie:
Concern #1: “50 Shades” Distorts Sexual Intimacy (while suggesting it deepens it)
“50 Shades of Grey” – My Concerns as a Man, Husband, Father and Pastor