“50 Shades of Grey” – My Concerns as a Man, Husband, Father and Pastor (updated 2/12/15)

IMG_0924The movie version of the bestselling book “Fifty Shades of Grey” will be released to movie theaters nationwide this Friday, February 13th. The release is timed to coincide with Valentine’s Day and makes the implied promise that it will strengthen the sexual intimacy of couples everywhere.

Time magazine recently reported that in some sections of the Bible-Belt sales of pre-release theater tickets for the movie are running four times higher than the national average. The movie now has made more money on pre-release ticket sales than any other “R” rated movie in U.S. history.

I am not a fan of Christians simply boycotting everything we don’t think is right in our culture. I am also not a fan of Christians simply embracing questionable media releases with little or no concern.

There are several basic problems with the book and the movie. I must admit that I have not read the book or seen the movie – nor do I plan to. I don’t have to view porn to understand some of its inherent problems either.

Over the course of the coming week, I plan to share five concerns I have with the movie. I will share one concern each day – ending on the day of its release Friday. The text of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 provides the basis for the concerns I will share. I believe this description of love from our Creator’s perspective stands in complete contrast to the “50 Shades” perspective on love.

Concern #1: “50 Shades” Distorts Sexual Intimacy (while suggesting it deepens it)

Concern #2: “50 Shades” Decreases Sexual Activity (while suggesting it increases it)

Concern #3: “50 Shades” Undermines Sexual Dignity (while suggesting it supports it) 

Concern #4: “50 Shades” Blurs Sexual Reality (while suggesting it clarifies it) 

Key resources regarding the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Below are some resources to help you and your family as you seek to be discerning about “Fifty Shades of Grey.” I will keep updating these over the course of this week.

  1. 7 Lessons from 50 Shades of Grey
  2. Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart 
  3. Truth about ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’: Movie glamorizes sexual violence, domestic abuse
  4. #FiftyShadesIsAbuse
  5. Campaign against Fifty Shades of Grey asks cinemagoers to boycott the movie and donate to women’s shelters instead
  6. An Open Letter from a Mother to Her Daughter about the Movie ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’



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